Many people HATE change. They fight it like hell. Resist it at ALL costs.
We all know people who will do ANYTHING to preserve the status quo.
But you can’t avoid change. The problem with hating change is life is FILLED with it.
Everyone, from every walk of life, must deal with change.
Change is always happening, but the way people react to change can be very different. Some people respond with fear, others respond with denial, others RELISH change.
What about you? How do you handle change?
Are you someone who puts off changes that you know need to be made?
Do you resist change to your own detriment?
Are you a person who creates opportunities for change because you view change as growth?
As humans, we are designed as a species that can adapt to all sorts of environments. If we weren’t CAPABLE of coping with change in all likelihood, we would be extinct.
For some people, they are not against change. But they may resist BEING changed. It is the source of the change that matters to them. Some people do not like change that is imposed on them—by say a boss, spouse, or some other external source.
Some people don’t mind change...depending how big the change is. Perhaps they can change a small aspect of their life but anything they deem to big and threatening is out of the question.
The truth is we all HAVE different thresholds when it comes to our ability to adapt to change. What I can handle you may not be able to handle or vice versa. Being averse to change or embracing it is a very subjective experience.
It all comes down to how comfortable you are with uncertainty.. Ask yourself–would you rather be WRONG or UNCERTAIN?
Some people say better the devil they know because the risk of uncertainty is too UNCOMFORTABLE for them to handle. Even when on an intellectual level a person knows uncertainty also comes with the chance of things being BETTER.
Below is a quiz I came across, that takes only a couple minutes, to get a sense of how much change you feel comfortable with:
If you find you want to change or need to change but have not been able to bring yourself to do so, you may benefit from working with a professional counselor.
Counseling can help you step out of your comfort zone to a more fulfilling, happier life. As you change your behavior, you identity starts to shift. Our identity is NOT fixed, we are all capable of changing for the better.
The question is are you READY for a change?
To schedule a counseling session with me (AND if you are a reader who lives in New Jersey):
Erin Doyle Theodorou, M.Ed, LPC, NCC
Anew Counseling Services LLC
617 Oradell Avenue, Suite 3, Oradell, New Jersey, 07649